Don't take your spouse for granted. do little things everyday that strengthen your marriage and lift up your spouse (Colossians 3:23 ) Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters. Don't be unconscious do have a servant's heart. notice and be attentive what makes your spouse happy ask your mate  what's important to them then put effort into the things they have shared with you.. ( Galatians 5:14 ) For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. Don't have selfish ambition. Philippians 2:3–4 says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Paul goes on to instruct the Philippians to have the same mindset as Jesus when relating to others, and he details just how humble Jesus was. Transform your marriage from good to extraordinary by adding more loving actions as a part of your communication such as communicating with with a spirit good of faith balance your own giving and taking practice acceptance and compassion. pay it forward through acts of kindness, Deeds and charity.   Don't stand in judgement practice forgiveness have an attitude of Goodwill. don't allow irritation and discontentment and resentment to grow. Colossians 3:13 says Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.  Dont just chit-chat .talk about life .talk about what's important to you ,talk about your relationship ,your struggles. your frustrations, your insecurities your hopes for the future ,your core values. Don't speak disrespectful your words should build up your spouse not tear them down,  proverbs 25:11 says a word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver is a ruling rightly given.( Ephesians 4 :29 )  Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Don't engage in dissonance. Give up on who's right and who's wrong.  love and respect your spouse listen for understanding practice acceptance and compassion. don't say if my spouse tries then I'll try. Keep investing in your relationship health and happiness even when the spouse isn't. Matthew 7 ; 3-5  Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye. Spiritual Cleansing. Rejuvenate your spirit , praying together will bring you and your spouse even closer. read the Bible out loud to each other find spiritual books and devotions to read together.  Plan Romantic dates together do something fun together learn new skills and hobbies together simply enjoy life and time together Embrace opportunities for fun do something nice for your spouse.  Don't go too long without sexual intimacy. initiate more sexual intimacy. God did not create sex for husbands to enjoy and wives to endure. he created it for both to enjoy it's something they do together for one another. read over your vows to one another.